14 Social Myths That Destroy Your Chances of Success

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You’ve been there before and you’re probably gonna be there again…

Sitting there politely taking to life advice from a friend, family member, teacher or an over-zealous acquaintance…

The advice is the same rehashed, politically correct bullshit you’ve heard 1000 times before…

And despite coming with good intentions, the only thing this advice is going to help you do is secure yourself a bleak, mediocre life of drudgery….

The thing is, the (often ugly) truth that you need to hear can only come from a select minority who actually know what it takes to live life on their own terms (yours truly being one of them)…

So, here’s 14 ugly truths about success in today’s society that you ought to know…

1. Blind Worship Of Formal Education

How well you do in school and how well you do in the real world are two very different skill sets…

And this is especially true in today’s rapidly evolving global economy…

Far too many people choose to take on a degree simply because they don’t know what else to do… it’s just the default option.

“I’m studying” gets you off the hook, and makes it seem like things are coming together for you.

“I’m young and am going to figure out what I want before I commit to anything” on the other hand, doesn’t.

Making yourself more valuable to others is what will lead to greater success…

Not the ability to memorize information and follow instructions, that’s what computers are for…

Racking up five figures of debt by spending countless hours studying nonsense that has no application in the real world, doesn’t mean you’re entitled to anything besides a piece of paper in a pretty picture frame and a graduation photo with a couple hundred Facebook likes as you get a big thumbs up for following the norm…

Just because the means was tedious and unenjoyable, doesn’t mean it has value…

You can go broke having the time of your life or you can go broke by learning about (expensive) nonsense.

“Yeah yeah you have a degree, but what can you do for me?” the world will ask you.

Unless a degree is required to enter the field of your choice (engineer, doctor, lawyer etc), your probably wasting your time and falling for one big fat scam.

2. Consumer Debt Is Normal

Get a shiny new car and buy it on credit they say, because god forbid you drive something that isn’t “cool” to people you don’t know and/or care about.

Spending money that hasn’t been earned from hours you haven’t lived, on something that depreciates (loses value with time) and costs you money as you use it.

Borrowing from the future to have something that costs you money now.

If you want to dig yourself into a financial grave, this is exactly how to do it.

3. The Need To Be Constantly Explaining Yourself and Decisions

When questioned about their life direction and choices, most people will stammer out some explanation or rationalization about why they’re doing what they’re doing…

As if saying “this is what I want to do” isn’t a sufficient answer.

Recently my girlfriend asked me…

“How did you end up doing what you do now? Like why did you decide to do this?”

I replied:

“Why does a bee make honey?”

I make my life decisions primarily based on gut feelings and what feels right to me personally…

Then I use rational, objective thought to figure out how to do it.

My gut tells me what to do.

My brain figures out how to do it.

“Because I want to” is all the explanation I need…

4. Hourly Rate/Salary Dependence.

Even when I was young and didn’t know that I wanted to become an entrepreneur, I never liked the idea of having my income potential capped by time…

“A doctor earns $X per year”

“An engineer earns $X per hour”

I would hear these “impressive” numbers in school…

“Yeah but what happens if I want to earn double that?” I would think to myself.

There’s only so many hours you can work in a year…

There’s only so much you can ask for a raise each year too, very few employers are going to be happy to double your salary…

One of the reasons I became on entrepreneur is because of this:

My income isn’t connected to my time anymore.

An hourly rate will do if you just want to earn enough to pay the pills and put food on the table and have a little to go out and enjoy yourself with.

But I’ve never been one to settle for average if I know awesome is possible…

Now, my income is based on the value I deliver to others, and I can automate this, which I have and continue to do.

Earning income and me showing up for work are two independent acts.

I’ve built systems that make money without me… this is how smart people make money folks, by taking themselves out of the equation.

They don’t get caught up in a foolish sense of pride where they think that “real work” means soul-sucking manual labor, that doing something tedious for hours a day is somehow more noble…

It doesn’t take strength to turn your brain off and submit to boredom for 8 hours a day… that’s just meek passivity.

Now, I operate on the “value determines income” model.

And if I want to double my income this is now very possible…

Yeah I still have to work for it, but it’s simply a matter of putting twice as much value into the marketplace.

No income ceiling here, the only limit is my ability to hustle and execute…

5. Success Is Linear, Not Exponential.

We’re conditioned to see success as small increments made daily, and that anything that is worth having takes lots of time and energy and is built up gradually…

While there is truth to this, it does take time and lots of energy, the big fallacy that most people fall victim to is that they see success as a linear progression. ..

1 + 1 = 2.

2 + 1 = 3.

And so on…

When in reality, if you approach your success with the right strategy, success is reflected in exponential growth, it all feeds on itself.

1 + 1 = 2.

2 + 2 = 4.

4 + 4 = 8.

Successful living is an upward, multiplying spiral…

For example:

The more I read high quality information the smarter I am with business…

The smarter I am in my business the more money I make…

The more money I make the more I can afford to spend more on improving my health..

The better my health is the more energy and focus I have…

The more focus and energy I have the more high quality information I can take in…

Repeat.

This cycle continues upwards and upwards, each time the results double over…

Each aspect adds to the whole, in an exponential way.

Getting from 1 to 2 pays back relatively little compared to the time and energy invested.

Yet with a linear mindset, most people think this is going to be the case going from 3 to 4 to 5 and beyond…

With exponential growth, getting from 2 to 4 takes as much energy as from 1 to 2 …

And getting from 4 to 8 takes as much energy and time as 1 to 2…

Winners think exponentially, they’re willing to pay their dues and set themselves up for exponential growth, because they know that in the long run the rewards will pay them back a hundred fold.

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6. Majoring In Minor Things

If I were to ask 100 people at random what their 12 month life goals are, I’d be willing to bet that 95+ would probably stare back at me blinking and then continue to call me ridiculous for asking such a question…

Yet these same people would have no trouble reporting back their football teams performance on the weekend, in detail…

And then proceed to gossip about who so-and-so celebrity was caught cheating with…

Followed by a detailed complaint about how the government is ruining their lives.

All these things being outside of their own control, and have very little impact on the quality of their lives…

They’re majoring in minor things.

Taking the time to plan their life and decisions is of little importance compared cultural distractions that are completely outside of them…

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7. Live For Pleasure And Stimulation

This goes well with the above point, that most peoples lives are by default pointed in the direction of seeking as much pleasure and stimulation as possible.

The weekend is the time to stimulate yourself, it’s what makes life worth living right?

Going alongside this is the tendency to minimize and shrink away from anything uncomfortable and the slightest bit painful (which includes pretty much all forms of personal growth and improvement)

There’s nothing wrong with enjoying yourself, but a winner does it within context, it needs to serve a larger purpose.

When I take time off, it’s so I can recharge and come back to my work strong…

I relax so I can work.

Most people work so they can relax.

Which leads me nicely into my next point….

8. Work Is A Bleak Drudgery That Should Be Minimized

I reject the popular notion that work has to be unenjoyable.

Even now as I write this, my ‘pomodoro timer’ went off around 15 minutes ago, signaling time for a break.

It barely registered to me… I’m enjoying myself.

Taking a break is for the most part a nuisance.

Who says work has to be met with internal resistance?

I enjoy my work so much that taking a Sunday off every week to recharge requires more discipline than working all day from Monday to Saturday…

You’re not gonna see me aboard the TGIF train cracking a can in excitement for the next two days where I get to fully escape the drudgery that is my life…

Fuck no.

I’m all about TGIM (Thank God It’s Monday).

Monday morning, 5am is my favorite time of the week.

There’s a variety of reasons for this:

  • 100% of the day is mine  I get to do what I want to do every day, the whole day is mine and I don’t run by anyone else’s agenda.
  • I’m building something for myself – I’m laying the bricks that are going to support me for years to come, every drop of sweat is worth it.
  • I do work I’m passionate about – I love being an entrepreneur, perhaps it’s simply because my day is full of dopamine hits from overcoming the ongoing challenges, but there’s something immensely satisfying about pulling together resources to create a desired outcome that is greater than the sum of it’s parts.

Even when I was working as a bartender for an hourly rate, I very rarely despised the job…

I didn’t allow myself too, negativity is the by product of a weak mind.

Almost all of my disposable income I earned went towards books and education, so I was still moving forwards.

I decided to reject the view that work is drudgery, and took it upon myself to made sure I enjoyed the work that was mine to do.

9. Looking To The Future For Happiness Or Completion

“If I can just get [this girl, this job, this degree, this amount of money, this body] then I’ll be happy…”

The masses spend their life living under the illusion that their happiness is confined to some future time when their life situation becomes a certain, ideal way.

“Happiness is for the future, not now” they say.

Here’s the big flaw to that kind of thinking:

Everything dies, dissolves, changes or ceases to be…

Even if you get whatever it is that you’ve attached your happiness to, you’re anxiety will transfer from wanting it to a fear of losing it.

You can choose to be happy now or you can choose to resist whatever life situation you’re in and tell yourself you need things a certain way to be better…

A winner steps up, he improves his life everyday, but he doesn’t confine his happiness to the future…

He decides he’s going to be happy now.

10. Deferring Responsibility To Others

How quick are those around you to applaud someone landing a new job (regardless of how simple)..?

Yet when the young entrepreneur declares he’s going to forge his own path and take full responsibility for his financial destiny the naysayers will swoop in like vultures to a fresh carcass.

The masses HATE it when the status quo is broken…

For the aspiring entrepreneur, the beginning of the journey comes with a double serving of ridicule, doubters and haters.

When you decide that you’re going to “back yourself” instead of someone else, the mob take it personally.

It reminds them that they really don’t have an excuse, or any right to complain about their own life…

I’m an entrepreneur because I’ve realized that if anyone’s going to give me financial freedom, it’s going to be me.

I refuse to allow my freedom and financial success to live under the ceiling of the bosses orders, an hourly rate or anyone’s control for that matter.

11. Consume Culture, But Who Are You To Create it?

The general view in society is that there’s the “normal” people here suffering through drudgery…

And there are the “people at the top” (who are by the way, evil, greedy and miserable human beings of course).

Those at the top are a different breed to everyone else, and how dare anyone of normal descent elect themselves to take the lead and step up…

The masses tell themselves and each other:

“Well, who are we to become someone? The people at the top have something special that we don’t.”

The winners responds:

“Fuck that, I’m just as smart as these people. Why not me?

12. Money Is Scarce

The extreme financial scarcity of your average joe is sickening.

This is a result of an individual who does know how to, nor cares to increase his value to others, and their static (small) income is the result of this…

Most people hoard their money and lock it away out of sight as if it’s escape meant their demise.

What they don’t realize is that by living with such a scarcity based mindset, they are carrying out the behaviors that keep them poor…

Recently, I’ve started to become “unclenched” about money.

I don’t care if fuel is 10 cents more expensive this week, I’m going to buy it anyway…

If I want to spend $15 a week on coffee, I’m gonna buy the long blacks and get on with what’s important…

Financial freedom isn’t achieved by chronic money-angst and hoarding whatever small amount you have.

The more time I spend in a money-scarce mindset, two things happen:

  1. It subconsciously reinforces the belief that money is hard to come by and extremely scarce. This belief leads to increased pressure and outcome dependence towards any activity that is related to generating income.
  2. Energy that I could be devoting to making more money is now spent on worrying about and clinging to that which I already have.

Don’t get me wrong, this doesn’t mean I go around purchasing on emotional whims because “fuck it, money isn’t scarce”…

I still budget and allocate my money appropriately, but I’m not clipping coupons and patting myself on the back for going without a bottle of water and saving two bucks.

If I’m not providing enough value to the world to allow me to afford a bottle of water here and a coffee there, then there’s bigger problems that need addressing…

I don’t need to worry about hoarding money, because I can just get more of it.

Money comes in during the day, it doesn’t go away.

Winners focus on their ability to earn more, not their skill hoarding what they already have.

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13. You’re Stuck with The Cards You Were Dealt

The amount of defeatism I see in others makes me sick.

“I tried losing weight but I just don’t like going to the gym”

“I tried to start an online business but it takes too long and building a website is just so confusing”

Yes, becoming competent at anything takes time and patience to develop, but it’s not necessarily that hard to figure out how to do it.

We have the biggest library in existence at our fingertips, that will teach you how to do almost anything for very little cost at all.

Yet most people resign themselves to whatever their life situation is and refuse to do anything about it because they “don’t know how”.

Here’s how competence in anything is developed:

Do shit.

Fail.

Learn from your mistakes.

Do more shit.

Fail again.

Learn more.

Find something that works.

Do more of the shit that works and less of the shit that doesn’t…

And as I mentioned earlier, success is exponential

Staying is shape is pretty much an afterthought for me now, twas a lot to wrap my head around in the beginning though…

I’ve even been light on the gym recently due to injuries, yet I’m still in great shape… I know how to diet and what to do to keep myself from turning into a fat slob, it’s simple.

However giving up on something simply because it’s hard, means you’ve wasted all that energy you spent.

Winners push through until become unconsciously competent.

Then the rewards come about with less and less effort, and often they’re multiplied over (this is the exponential growth I mentioned earlier)…

14. Living Up To The Values Of Others

This is something that is more of an unspoken tendency, but reins true among the masses who live without a defined life purpose…

They need to have everyone understand and approve of their life direction and choices…

And as a result, the calling or direction they really want to pursue is pushed aside because of how it will be received by others…

So many people are quick to start racking up university debt, simply because the response “I’m studying” takes the pressure off at Christmas dinner during small-talk with the extended family.

If you want to live a good life, you need to realize that a lot of the time this constitutes going against the “general consensus” of most of the people around you…

Want to build an awesome life?

Well you’re going to be misunderstood, talked about behind your back, doubted, receive puzzled looks, talked down to…

You name it.

Winners rise above all that nonsense and live to satisfy their own values, (which they’ve actually taken the time to sit down, define clearly and write out)…

And as long as they’re living by their own values, they’re content with that…

The opinions and judgements of everyone else (save a selected few close individuals) are about as important as a fart in the wind.

The mob can hate or praise all they like, either way a winner is gonna do what he’s gonna do…

Have you fell victim to any of these social myths?

Can you think of number 15?

Let me know in the comments below…

All the best,

Ryan Kuchel

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Ryan Kuchel is an entrepreneur and founder of AggressiveEvolution.com.

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Oliver - October 30, 2015 Reply

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